It's interesting how some things are easier to remember than others and it's a good thing!  Today my wife and I were "reminiscing" about some of the silly things we did in the past as a result of arguments we had. The amazing thing is that we could only remember the silly things we did as a result of arguments and never the arguments themselves!

It so fortunately happens that the silly things we did were unpleasant at the time, but had no longer term pain.  However, I can bet that for some out there, the pain that results from actions resulting from arguments is long lasting, painful and irreversible. And, I bet in many cases, the source arguments are either gone from memory or no longer important.

I am not advocating avoiding arguments at all cost because that would be unhealthy. We need adversity to fully experience stability.  

I am also not saying we should forget all arguments either because some arguments cannot and should not be forgotten (for example, the argument Hitler had with the world!)

I think we all should be cognisant of the actions we take as a result of the arguments that we will inevitably have. We can choose to pick a big field and yell away to the sky all of our frustrations, or we can choose to do silly things (not that yelling to the sky in a big field is not silly, but that's not the point!).

I've lost track of many times I used the word "argument" in this thought, but anyways, however it is we choose to react to an argument, let's hope it won't be long lasting, painful and irreversible.

by John E. Tran